I received this email just today and I thought it was very interesting. I thought I would put it here and add my own spin to each "Do" and "Don't". But first off, have you ever wondered why it is necessary for women to keep reminding themselves about things like this. I wonder if men sit around and discuss or share emails on how to avoid being in a bad relationship with us women. But for some reason, we as women are always on guard and advising one another on how to avoid making mistakes. Of course, God said in his WORD through the Apostle Paul that there would be days like this. 2 Timothy 3: 1 - 7 says:
The original email is in BLACK...Any additional comments by me are in RED.
1- If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. So for heavens sake don't think having a baby will keep him! Getting child support can be a nightmare.
2 -Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Allow the HOLY SPIRIT to guide you but of course we sometime ignore what is being said because it is not what we want to hear.
3- Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. First you gotta realize and accept that it's not meant to be.
4- Slower is better. What's that saying about the race is not given to the swift...
5 - Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. Unless that man's name is JESUS!
6 - If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Does this even work? Being friends that is...
7 - Don't settle. Enough said!
8 - If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Untie that knot! The days of Lynching are over!
9 - Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. You can by walking away then it's better!
10- The only person you can control in a relationship is you. And we don't even do a good job at that so what makes us think we can control somebody else.
11 - Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? I ain't gonna touch this.
12 - Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Now why wouldn't you have your own set of friends? You need somebody to help beat him down if he acts up. His own friends ain't gonna help you do that.
13 - Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. I don't think any of the ladies I know will have a problem with this...
14- Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. In other words, don't go telling him all your dirt cause he sure ain't gonna tell you all his! Unless of course that man is JESUS and he will never bring it up again. Psalm 103: 10 - 12 says: 10 He hath not dealt with us after our sins; nor rewarded us according to our iniquities. 11 For as the heaven is high above the earth, so great is his mercy toward them that fear him. 12 As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.
15- You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Romans 12:2 says 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. YE means you not somebody else...
16 - Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are.... even if he has more education or in a better job. And don't think you are more important than him either for the same reasons...
17- Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Not sure what a quasi-god is...but hey don't but him on a pedestal cause he ain't perfect.
18 - Never let a man define who you are. How could he do that? Pray that you already know who you are.
19 - Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. I know there's some women don't really believe this...if they did they would not get mad when their "borrowed" man steps out on them.
20- A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. Chris Rock says watch how he treats his mama and you will know how he will treat you.
21 - All men are NOT dogs. TRUE!
22 - You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. In other words, take the words "DOOR MAT" off your forehead!
23- You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. And we know we will take our issues and carry them around even after we asked God to put us at peace. Why do we do that?
24- You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Yeah cause two halves is 50% and 50% which means each person is missing 50% of something else.
25 - Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Yeah but after a certain age, dating can be a waste of time if it ain't going no where.
26 - Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Too late - we have cellphones!
27- Never move into his mother's house. Unless mama is rich and got a big ol' house with servants.
28 - Never co-sign for a man. Or co-sign with one unless he's your husband. At least that is just my opinion.
29 - Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. I guess this means it's okay to have your own "little black book" but don't be a hoochie mama!
1But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.
6They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over weak-willed women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires, 7always learning but never able to acknowledge the truth.
6They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over weak-willed women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires, 7always learning but never able to acknowledge the truth.
The original email is in BLACK...Any additional comments by me are in RED.
1- If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. So for heavens sake don't think having a baby will keep him! Getting child support can be a nightmare.
2 -Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Allow the HOLY SPIRIT to guide you but of course we sometime ignore what is being said because it is not what we want to hear.
3- Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. First you gotta realize and accept that it's not meant to be.
4- Slower is better. What's that saying about the race is not given to the swift...
5 - Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. Unless that man's name is JESUS!
6 - If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Does this even work? Being friends that is...
7 - Don't settle. Enough said!
8 - If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Untie that knot! The days of Lynching are over!
9 - Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. You can by walking away then it's better!
10- The only person you can control in a relationship is you. And we don't even do a good job at that so what makes us think we can control somebody else.
11 - Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? I ain't gonna touch this.
12 - Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Now why wouldn't you have your own set of friends? You need somebody to help beat him down if he acts up. His own friends ain't gonna help you do that.
13 - Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. I don't think any of the ladies I know will have a problem with this...
14- Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. In other words, don't go telling him all your dirt cause he sure ain't gonna tell you all his! Unless of course that man is JESUS and he will never bring it up again. Psalm 103: 10 - 12 says: 10 He hath not dealt with us after our sins; nor rewarded us according to our iniquities. 11 For as the heaven is high above the earth, so great is his mercy toward them that fear him. 12 As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.
15- You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Romans 12:2 says 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. YE means you not somebody else...
16 - Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are.... even if he has more education or in a better job. And don't think you are more important than him either for the same reasons...
17- Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Not sure what a quasi-god is...but hey don't but him on a pedestal cause he ain't perfect.
18 - Never let a man define who you are. How could he do that? Pray that you already know who you are.
19 - Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. I know there's some women don't really believe this...if they did they would not get mad when their "borrowed" man steps out on them.
20- A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. Chris Rock says watch how he treats his mama and you will know how he will treat you.
21 - All men are NOT dogs. TRUE!
22 - You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. In other words, take the words "DOOR MAT" off your forehead!
23- You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. And we know we will take our issues and carry them around even after we asked God to put us at peace. Why do we do that?
24- You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Yeah cause two halves is 50% and 50% which means each person is missing 50% of something else.
25 - Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Yeah but after a certain age, dating can be a waste of time if it ain't going no where.
26 - Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Too late - we have cellphones!
27- Never move into his mother's house. Unless mama is rich and got a big ol' house with servants.
28 - Never co-sign for a man. Or co-sign with one unless he's your husband. At least that is just my opinion.
29 - Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. I guess this means it's okay to have your own "little black book" but don't be a hoochie mama!
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